Before my husband left a stable job to venture out on his own, we were living a very comfortable life in the middle of our big city. We didn’t give much thought to eating at fun restaurants or buying new clothes whenever the whim struck. While we certainly had a budget, it was quite flexible. But, that easy lifestyle shifted quite dramatically almost over night. We had to confront a new reality: despite being well educated and “upwardly mobile” we were now going to work twice as hard to live paycheck-to-paycheck.
At that time I made a very conscious choice: embrace the new path we were on and not shy away. Even though our friends and families were still on the upward trek, we simply could not compete. So, we decided not to. As this blog can attest, I do not hide the fact that we are sticking to our budget while having fun with our new frugality. Much to my surprise, life has become more interesting as we find new ways to make our money and time go further.
There are many seasons in life. Sure, youth is often seen as summer and old-age as winter. But, through our years together we’ll encounter constantly shifting times of plenty and times of need. Right now, my happy little family is living in a winter season – newness is sparse, but we are cheerfully huddled together and keeping warm. I’m looking forward to the spring when we can emerge anew, followed by summer’s strong roots. In recognition that this is my real life right now, I am appreciating our special winter season and the lessons of authenticity it teaches me.
If any good can come from the economic recession, it might be that people are living more authentic lives. I see fewer fake designer purses on shoulders these days – its as if we all know those things aren’t fooling anyone anymore! Maybe we’re all starting to get fed up with maintaining lifestyles that are not authentic to who we are?
I take no issue with nice, expensive things as someday I’d like to occasionally treat myself, too. However, I do take issue with people who insist on projecting an image not their own. Those who worry about money issues while driving nice cars and toting expensive handbags will find little sympathy from me. If your season shifts from summer to winter, be authentic: sell the car, auction the purse on Ebay, put yourself on a strict budget, and have fun with the new challenge. Why stress about impressing others when you aren’t proud of who you really are?
Be proud of your season in life. Be authentic.
© Copyright 2024 Homemade Mothering | A Back to Basics Approach to Mothering and Homekeeping
It's so easy to doubt your life and your path and your purpose sometimes…I do all the time! And insecure people in your life can truly shake even the most secure person's views of themselves. Be true to yourself are words of wisdom! Even within different "seasons" of life there will be ups and downs so to add inauthenticity only confuses and muddles those ups and downs more! Live your life to the best of your ability with great memories, with purpose and with friends and family, that way you can never lose.
great post…i completely agree. we too have had our seasons over twenty one years of marriage and the winters we've had are sweet memories. the kids were young, we were true to ourselves and living on love…no pun intended. 🙂 this post should be read by everyone in America…it's THAT good! thanks.
A very timely post to read, as my husband is facing redundancy. We live quite carefully even in the good times, but this is certainly our season for tightening belts, as I'm sure others are finding too. Thanks for your post!
Thanks so much! Feel free to share this post with your friends and family. Its nice to know there are others "out there" who share my point of view on this issue.
Love this! My husband just graduated with his master's degree and I always assumed that a bigger degree meant a bigger paycheck. Right now it just means the same paycheck with bigger bills (student loans!) So we're cutting back and doing without, but kind of loving it 🙂