All of a sudden, it seems like my third pregnancy is coming to a too-fast end. The July morning we found out about Bundle #3 feels like a long 7 months ago, but now that I’m in the home stretch I’m starting to panic a little bit. So much to do! So much will change! How will I ever prepare for it all in just a few weeks?!
Lately, I’ve been getting lots of comments about the size of my belly. As with my first two pregnancies, I didn’t really start to show until 6 or 7 months, so now that I’m at 8 months I finally have a little tummy I can be proud of. But, everyone from the dry cleaner to my grandmother has a comment about how “small” I am. Someone had the nerve to ask me if I’ve had a doctor check on me! And, another person suggested that perhaps there is something wrong with the perfectly healthy baby inside me.
Here’s the thing: just as all women are different, all pregnant women are different. Some pop in the first trimester, some never show until their due date. Some bellies look like basketballs, while others resemble the oblong shape of a football. There is nothing I can do to beef up my belly – my long torso means that my uterus will keep going up until it has to go out!
While some cute banter about my belly is just fine, unsolicited comments that suggest I am neglecting my health or the health of my baby get on my nerves. A pregnant tummy is not necessarily an open invitation to criticize a woman’s body. When negative comments about my size came my way during my first pregnancy, I became very nervous and anxious worrying that something was wrong. I’ve since learned not to take these remarks personally. Some people just don’t know better, and other people are truly concerned and trying to be helpful. There’s no sense in getting worked up about it!
And, while I’m on a bit of a rant, here’s a P.S.: Unless you are a female blood relative of mine, do not reach out and touch my stomach. I like my personal space, thank you very much.
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